If you are a gay man who is looking for that special someone, someone to have a real loving relationship with, you may be wondering how to start dating on the Internet... It's true that it's a solution (which is not really any new) tinder, adopt a guy, etc. Yes, but you're looking for something more specialized: Grindr, for example. It's a great way to connect with guys who are compatible, open-minded, and adventurous. Whether you're new, a connoisseur, or just moved recently, internet dating sites are a very popular way to meet people - rather than hitting up libraries.
Okay, if you're brand new, it can be overwhelming to see how difficult it is to sort through all the available means. That's not all: there is the etiquette, the rules, the language codes used on dating sites… It's a real labyrinth. This article is designed to help you get started, or better master the art of internet dating.
Carefully (and Carefully) Select Your Dating Sites
Sometimes the first step is the hardest. In other words, with all the sites with disreputable reputations, the new sites that do not have more than 100 members in the world, the hardest thing is to sort it out, to find a reliable and worthy site. Let's take a concrete example: your friends go through Tinder, tell you that it's a good dating app. Because on it there are many people, registered. But you're not sure: does it “work” for gays too? And even if it works, and there are criteria, won't I come across fake people, weird people, or simply people who have neglected their search criteria? Although it's totally true: the gay community is little (and sometimes badly) represented on dating apps and sites, escort boy. Here's where to look:
- Grindr: created especially for the LGBTQ community, it is one of the most used social networks around the world.
- Chappy: Another app created for same-sex relationships. It will be used to find people… For a long-term relationship, or a one-night stand.
- Compatible Partners: This app uses a questionnaire system, to bring together truly perfect matches.
Make sure you have a typical profile of the person you want to meet
Before you even set up your profile properly, you'll need to have a clear goal in mind: who do you want to date? By knowing this, and having the most precise criteria possible, you will be able to more easily build a sort of fictitious image of the person you want to meet. But that's not all: you will also be able to build your profile more easily... To make it more attractive to your perfect profile (and thus make it correspond to what you want the most...)
Even if you have to draw or make a list of the things you love, physically and emotionally, don't hesitate. Because doing this before you start your adventure on dating sites and apps will help you get off to the best possible start. A clear and precise idea of what you want, so you can quickly discard people who don't match.
Make your profile the perfect profile, and attract the men (you want) like a pot of honey to bees
Here is the part you really want to do well. And it's the one that can allow you the most important thing on a dating site: you stand out. Let's be honest: relationships on dating sites and especially on apps, it's a market. There is supply (you) and demand (those who will want to match you). And that's all the subtlety, you might think that the important thing is to be as beautiful as possible and that's all... So yes, it's important, it always is. But it's not as simple as that. Your profile description is the cornerstone of your little strategy: you want matches. And you want them preferably with men who meet the conditions and criteria you listed above… So how?
- Choose your nickname and your title intelligently: Even if it is not mandatory to put Last name + First name and that's it, the extremes (like inventing a nickname that you will not even use for your old college email address) do are not necessarily ideas to keep. You want something coherent, maybe a little original (not too much), and above all: you don't want to attract the opposite of what you are looking for. Be congruent with your goal.
- Every word counts: your description is counted. Every character counts. So this little space, use to grab the full attention of other users. Speak about yourself, to attract those you want, without being too vague: be precise, concise, and clear about what you want. This will save you the embarrassing misunderstandings that can occur later...
- The Photo: You want to look your best, of course. But be aware of what you show: even if your best photo is the one with your ex on it… No need to put that one in your profile picture. And keep a bit of mystery: if you're muscular, don't show a shirtless photo. It's a strategy like any other… But you're not necessarily going to attract what you want.
Be active on the site (the algorithm is the key to success)
Once these preliminaries are done, and you finally have your account ready to reap tons and tons of matches, you may think it's enough to sit down and tell yourself that people will just be interested in your profile. But no: you have a much better chance of finding what you're looking for by staying active.
- Act like an open-minded person.
- Do not hesitate to start conversations.
- When a man sends you a message, always reply, even if you are not interested (politeness obliges)
- If it helps: keep a teaser list handy, to break the ice faster.